Yes, she was trying, exhausting. Aren’t we all? Aren’t we all a little too demanding of life, our friends, ourselves? I think she was desperate to matter, to be important, to be a good friend, to rise above the demons of her life, most of which are unknown to people and most of which would have destroyed most of us. I think she wanted someone to love her without fucking her–metaphorically or otherwise–and I think she wanted someone to listen to her, really hear her. Haven’t I just described all of us? I know I’ve described myself.
By Dennis Hopper (via psych-facts)
After seeing that post of yours/ the comments made I looked to see if I can find any classics written by WOC online and honestly there was barely anything? (It could be that I'm just that bad at researching) But maybe someone with more knowledge/background can give recs? Cos I would love to read classics by WOC, or even just books written before the 19th century.
The grand jury has decided not to indict anyone in connection with the death of Sandra Bland, who was found dead inside a Texas jail cell in July, ABC 13 reports. Officers and jailers involved in the case avoided indictments. But the court proceedings aren’t over yet.
Help us provide an option for the nonbinary and transmasculine community in terms of swimtops. Everyone should have the option to go shirtless if they want to and everyone should be able to do it comfortably and confidently. Some people are cool with wearing a bikini top, tight compression sports bra, or a baggy tshirt – but what if you aren’t? What if you want to get a tan and wear something that’s more “masculine” or gender neutral? What if you want to be able to just feel shirtless? Our Bareskin Top is our solution to this problem. Offered in a variety of skin tones and in a more comfortable cut than other binders on the market, the Bareskin Top allows you to wear something that is less visually triggering than anything else out there and allows you to get a tan while also spending time in the water.
We need your help to make it a reality though! Our kickstarter is live until December 19, 2015 and with your help donating and spreading the word, we can have these bad boys available by next summer if we meet our fundraising goal.
Don’t you think everybody deserves to feel comfortable in their bare skin?
Donate, signal boost, spread the word, & support your community! If every person who reblogged this donated just $5 we would reach our goal in no time!
Special thanks to Yoomi Park for shooting our video and for Kayla, Chris, Rookie and Courtney for drinking beer at 11am to make this happen.
WAIT WAIT WAIT CAN I REMIND YOU ALL that this is going to help trans/non binary people with dysphoria during sex too?? Like we haven’t even mentioned that part about the bareskin top, but that’s going to be one of the biggest reasons I plan on buying one!! The last thing I need during an intimate session with my partner is my fucking dysphoria ruining it for both of us, and who doesn’t want to have the most skin on skin action going on? I know that if I see my chest out of my peripherals during sex, it will trigger dysphoria and I will fall out of the mood. Dude, this thing will eliminate so much of that!! I don’t want to have to wear a shirt every time, and once this is released, I won’t have to. Yet ANOTHER reason why this is such a good idea. Please share, donate, help get this project off the ground. Chris and Courtney just want to help the world, so let’s help make that happen.
I’m the same way and let me tell you– wearing the prototype when I’m having sex is so much less triggering than any other top because seeing something on me is triggering out of my peripherals. Yea my other binder makes me flat and it feels great but when I see the grey fabric Out of the corner of my eye it reminds me of a part of my body I don’t like and I’m instantly turned off.
Same goes for when I wear it to lift weights at the gym. I hate sleeves and when you see this under my cutoff people don’t even glance twice at me whereas I feel self conscious if you can spy my black sports bra under my shirt.
The whole skin tone thing was such a simple solution to the visual trigger problem a lot of us have that causes us Dysphoria!
After protests over the erasure of trans women of color from Robert Emmerich’s Stonewall, expectations are high for the short film Happy Birthday, Marsha!, about trans activist Marsha P. Johnson. If the trailer’s any indication, this movie will slay!
Marsha features acclaimed Tangerine star Mya Taylor in the title role.
The trailer shows off a sumptuous, hyper-real 60’s aesthetic.
The film also features trans actresses Eve Lindley, Cherno Biko, and Rios O’Leary-Tagiuri.
There’s even a glimpse of Marsha P. Johnson herself in the trailer!
That’s right — it’s gonna be legendary.
BuzzFeed News caught up with filmmakers Reina Gossett and Sasha Wortzel, who showed us some wonderful exclusive images from the making of the movie.
Gossett told BuzzFeed News: “The pictures were all taken during the shooting of our ‘Hotel Dixie’ scene in which Marsha, Sylvia, Bambi and Andorra are hanging out in a hotel room they share.The scene is a flashback to 1965 when Sylvia is new to their scene and to sex work. Marsha is acting a as a sort of mentor to Sylvia.”
Commenting on the rich look of the film, Gossett notes: “We wanted the movie to reflect Marsha’s beauty. She wasn’t really fancy but she was fanciful, and when we talk about aesthetics it’s about the beauty of how she relates to other people.”
Wortzel adds: “Frequently people expect that if a film is political it’s not going to be beautiful. It was really important for us to make a film that was deeply political and personal in many ways but also gorgeous to look at.”
Happy Birthday Marsha is currently raising funds on Indiegogo, to make sure the film will be as amazing and beautiful as possible.
this film is going to be so awesome and so important.
please signal boost! at the moment the project is only 30% funded with only 19 days left.
i’m tired of “how to help a partner with [x mental illness]” guides that assume that the other partner has no issues of any kind; i want more discussion of how to balance the differing mental health needs of multiple people in a relationship
So my partner and I have been together almost two years, and we both suffer from anxiety, BPD, and a handful of other mental illnesses, and here’s some things that help us out immensely.
communication is key. Tell your partner if you’re having a bad day. Listen when your partner says they’re having a bad day. It’s easier to be careful with someone when you know they’re already having a bad day. I can’t stress this enough - communication is always important in relationships; but it’s doubly so when one or both of you has a mental illness. You have to trust your partner to be able to be honest with you about what they’re feeling and how their illness is affecting them, and you need to be honest with them, too.
ask questions. If your partner is struggling, asking them questions to help you understand how to help them can be good. Remember that ‘I don’t know’ is a valid answer, and it is one that you can also give.
be reminders for each other. It can be super hard to remember to do simple things for yourself; it can be easier to remember to remind your partner to do them. My partner reminds me about medication, food, etc., and I do the same for him - it helps a lot.
use safewords. And I don’t mean in the kinky sense. My partner and I have a series of words that mean different things, because sometimes it can be hard to say ‘I’m swinging’ or ‘I’m having a panic attack’ or ‘this subject is upsetting me for x y z’ reason. It’s easier to say one syllable - ‘swing’ for rapidly cycling emotions, ‘count’ for panic attacks (so one of us can count breaths for the other). We have words that mean ‘drop this subject now’ and words that mean ‘please don’t touch me’. We also have hand signals for days when one or both of us are nonverbal, and we revert to texting on those days.
be willing to give each other space. But don’t necessarily go far. If you need your space, tell your partner; if your partner needs their space, make sure they can still access you.
acknowledge each other’s illness. Don’t pretend it isn’t there. Ignoring it doesn’t make it go away. Acknowledge that they’re there, acknowledge that sometimes they may come in conflict with each other, and learn how to take a step back when it becomes a problem.
call each other out. If your partner is repeatedly doing things that are detrimental to themselves/your relationship/you, call them on it. Don’t do it in an asshole way - just sit down with them and be like ‘hey, you’ve been doing this thing that is really sucky lately, and it needs to stop.’ Likewise, listen when you’re being called out. It’s really easy to get stuck in shitty loops when your brain is sick, and sometimes you don’t know what you’re doing ‘til someone points it out. This hurts! And it sucks! But it’s part of acknowledging your illnesses. It doesn’t do any good to let bad habits continue, even if there’s a reason they’re happening.
learn to forgive. When you’ve both got brain issues going on, it’s inevitable that people are going to say things they don’t mean, and that is going to hurt. The important thing is being able to recognize when you’ve messed up and apologize sincerely, and accept it when your partner apologizes.
These are just some things that work for us. Add to the list if you can and I hope this helps.
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